What if? Thoughts about Action in the Current Political Climate

Note: Although the content of the context talks about the Democratic party in the US, the actions could be about any political party in any country.

Context: Selected quotes taken from a post by Rosemary Cairns via The Atlantic.

“What Would a Liberal Tea Party Look Like?  Democrats might have a chance to replicate the energy of the 2009 grassroots movement—if they actually want to.”

“Republicans aren’t the only ones taking flak. Democratic voters’ frustration with their party’s leaders, who are widely seen as either flat-footed or acquiescent, is growing.

To recover their mojo, Democrats need some sort of organizing principle, real or purported.

One challenge of creating a liberal version of the Tea Party is that what liberals want right now is so basic. The opposite of what Trump has done in his first month in office is good governance—careful, measured administration. But that doesn’t make a good bumper sticker, and it doesn’t inspire crowds.

Representative Jake Auchincloss, a Massachusetts Democrat, has warned against Democrats trying to offer voters a “Diet Coke” version of Trumpian populism. “Voters who ordered a Coca-Cola don’t want a Diet Coke,” he told the New York Times columnist Ezra Klein recently. “There are two different parties. We have to start by understanding who our voters are not and then understanding who our voters could be—and go and try to win them over.

Ultimately, Democrats will return to viability only if they’re able to learn from and absorb grassroots energy.

Democrats could certainly use an infusion of fresh ideas—and new leadership.”

My response:

Maybe a shift is needed to what the Iowa caucuses looked like when I was a child in the 1950’s — not about candidates for President, but grassroots meetings to create planks for the party platform.  The ideas from the precinct caucuses were taken to a county convention, which then took the consensus to the state convention, and the consensus from the state was taken to the national convention to create the national party platform. (I remember one of these precinct caucuses happening in our family front room when I was 10. I was serving hot coffee to the participants and spilled it on me, which literally burned the meeting into my memory.)

This is what my father loved about politics – the way that ordinary people coming together and sharing their ideas created the foundation for grounded choices and  decision-making all the way up to the national level. 

Facilitators know how to design these from the grassroots up.   And ICA did community town meetings across the US in 1976.  I personally have facilitated consultations for governments that started at the local level and brought those ideas together at a higher level, looking for the common patterns that included all the perspectives.   

What if we locally took action to bring our neighbours together to discuss what is important to them, and then shared these concerns with others doing the same thing? This could shape how leaders make decisions.

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Three Quotes for Hope

In turbulent times, where there is a lot of uncertainty and all the world around you feels like it is in the midst of change with unknown outcomes, it is easy to fall into despair about things you can’t control.

I have found the following three short quotes that sustain my hope that the change will have positive outcomes. The sequence they are in are important. And the challenge to be a thoughtful, committed citizen to make a positive difference is a critical part. What can you do to make a positive difference from where you stand?

Three Quotes for Hope

“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”

Leonard Cohen

“What appears to be the breaking down of civilization may well be the breaking up of old forms by life itself.” 

Attributed to Joyce Carol Oates

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world.  Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has”.

Margaret Mead

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Where I Stand

Several weeks ago I re-posted a long negative political post on Facebook that started with “This is where I stand”.  One of my childhood friends had posted it, and when I read it I agreed with pretty much all of it, and was so grateful for my friend that I copied and posted it.

It is uncharacteristic of me to post negativity, even when I am feeling it.  And it is only since I retired that I have loosened my stand on never making comments in public that can be construed as political, since my job was (and vocation is) about bringing out all perspectives, listening to them, and helping people find their common ground. 

Since then, much more is happening that requires a stand. 

So I have decided to write a positive post about “Where I stand”.  This is not a political stand, but the values that I stand by.  I am sure this is not complete, but it is a start. 

Where I stand:

From my experience in cultures across the world, I have learned that all people are human beings that deserve dignity, and that there are no categories of people that are more worthy of respect than others.

I work to support every human being.  This may include, as D.H. Lawrence said eloquently in his poem “We Are Transmitters”, that “It doesn’t mean letting the letting the living dead eat you up.  It means kindling the life quality where it is not.”. This means that standing up for the positive may well mean standing up for limits on destructive behaviour. 

I support all those who are thinking beyond themselves and those most like them when they make decisions, therefore making decisions that create the common good. One example:  I support political candidates who, instead of blaming or attacking, communicate caring, well-thought-through, reasoned solutions to problems that people they represent are facing, and have a history of following through on their plans.

I support care for all peoples of the earth, that they may have enough to eat, a place to live, and safety.   

I support all efforts to support people who need support, such as through access to government health care support and income support such as minimum wage and Social Security, and those who have fled untenable situations in their home countries.

I support the civil rights of every human being, and those who also support other’s civil rights.   

I support the constitutions of the countries in which I am a citizen, and will call out the actions that undermine them.

I support the strengthening of environmental actions and protection, to help ensure that our children and grandchildren can live and thrive. This means supporting the increase in the use of renewable energy to supplant the fuels that are contributing to climate change. It also means working to protect and expand the range of native plants and animals that in their reciprocity sustain us all. And it means working to protect and restore safe and clean water sources.

I support thoughtful education and all it takes to create a citizenry that understands the historical and social patterns in society around them and can make wise decisions on behalf of all.  I support clear thinking. 

I support working together globally with other countries and people to care for the people of the world through working for peace and shared prosperity.

I support the participation of local people in decisions that affect their lives, and support their actions to carry out those decisions when it is clear that those decisions a community consensus that positively affects the whole community.

I support actions in the present that are based on understanding of the past, and responsible projecting of a future for all. I support these things because I understand that we (humans and the natural world) are all related, and our own well-being depends on the well-being of all the rest.

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Winter Sale by New Society Publishers

New Society Publishers has a Winter Sale with 40% off all their books including The Art of Focused Conversation Second Edition until Dec. 6, 2024.

https://newsociety.com/book/the-art-of-focused-conversation-second-edition/

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I’m proud to announce that The Art of Focused Conversation, 2nd Edition is Available!

The Art of Focused Conversation, Second Edition: More Than 100 Ways to Access Group Wisdom in Your Organization

by R. Brian Stanfield and Jo Nelson

The Art of Focused Conversation is the quintessential theoretical and practical guide to group communication and participatory decision-making. Incorporating over 60 years of meticulous research and collaborative development, this perennial, international bestseller is an indispensable addition to any facilitator’s toolkit.

The Focused Conversation Method at the heart of The Art of Focused Conversation is a core component of the Technology of Participation (ToP) methodology developed by the Institute of Cultural Affairs. The original book is widely regarded as a key resource for designing and leading useful and effective conversations and fostering consensus and collaboration. This fully updated and revised edition includes:

  • Preparation and guidelines for discussing challenging topics and facilitating a focused conversation
  • A comprehensive overview of the ORID framework, made up of Objective, Reflective, Interpretive, and Decisional questions which guide a group to wise decisions
  • In-depth analysis of how the underlying structure of ToP is based on applied phenomenology and is supported by the latest findings in neuroscience and social psychology
  • New sections on diversity, equity, and inclusion; work-life balance; conflict resolution; and guiding focused conversations online
  • 125 sample conversations that can be adapted to any situation.

Invigorate and elevate your group process with this invaluable resource—required reading for facilitators, leaders, educators, and anyone who wants to think clearly and guide thoughtful conversations.

About the Authors

R. Brian Stanfield was an educator, researcher, and Director of Publications at the Canadian Institute of Cultural Affairs. Editor of the first edition of The Art of Focused Conversation and The Workshop Book and author of The Courage to Lead, Brian made a lasting contribution to the use of participatory practices in facilitation. He died in 2006.

Jo Nelson worked with the Institute of Cultural Affairs for 50 years, leading participatory development projects and designing and teaching ToP facilitator training programs. She was a contributor to the first edition of The Art of Focused Conversation and is author of The Art of Focused Conversation for Schools and Getting to the Bottom of ToP.

Pre-ordering is available at a discount until September 10. Order from

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Dialogue to Heal an Adversarial Worldview

Dialogue to Heal an Adversarial Worldview by Jo Nelson, CTF, IAF-CPF Emeritus
From <The Power of Dialogue- Conversations with Masters> series

Dialogue to Heal an Adversarial Worldview by Jo Nelson, CTF, IAF-CPF Emeritus
From <The Power of Dialogue- Conversations with Masters> series
Graphic Recording by Grace Wang, 圖像記錄: 王寧
Written by Kimberly Bain, IAF- CPF/M
This session was part of the CP Yen Foundation Workshop series on the Power of Dialogue and featured Jo Nelson, CPF Emeritus on the topic of the use of dialogue to heal an adversarial worldview. “Once a society loses this capacity [for dialogue] all that is left is a cacophony of voices battling it out to see who wins and who loses.  There is no capacity to go deeper, to find a deeper meaning that transcends individual views and self-interest.” Peter Senge

On March 19th, 2024, 43 people joined together to consider how dialogue can be used to help heal an adversarial worldview.  Jorie Wu, from CP Yen Foundation started the session with this quote by Peter Senge and encouraged everyone to be fully present, engage in and enjoy the mutual learning and be prepared to be surprised.  She then introduced Jo Nelson as “an iconic figure in the profession of facilitation”.  With over 50 years facilitating, teaching, mentoring and writing about facilitation, Jo has been inducted into the International Facilitators’ Hall of Fame and is currently working on the 2nd edition of Focused Conversations, scheduled for publication release in the fourth quarter of 2024.

Jo started the session with her belief that everyone on this planet wants to have a voice in the decisions that affect their lives, and that everyone has wisdom that can affect those decisions in a very positive way when asked and listened to. Her concern is that there is an underlying image that reality only has two sides and that this worldview that is intensifying in the 21st century.  This two-sided worldview – right/wrong, for/against, us/them, left/right, good/bad, friend/enemy – does not allow for or acknowledge a middle ground and prevents the development of thoughtful shared solutions to problems.  Jo explained that a two-sided worldview is not all bad, after all the computer was developed from Is and 0s and turns off and on, but this view is currently blocking us from entering into authentic dialogues to find solutions to create a better future.  When the underlying assumption is that reality only has two sides, it leads us to see alternative views as either with us or against us and stops us from considering a third way.  Rumi is quoted as saying, “between right and wrong there is a field and I will meet you there.”  Jo referred to this as the ethical space between different views.  She talked about two people sitting on opposite ends of a park bench and viewing the scene in front of them in very different ways.  Both people are seeing the same thing but viewing it very differently.  The ethical space is the space on the bench between them.  Like Rumi’s field, the ethical space is the open space between the different views, it is the space where we can explore options, opportunities, commonalities and differences, the space where we can find solutions.  Jo reminded us that it is important to create a comfortable space (that mythical field or park bench) to hold the dialogue and that to address the adversarial mindset we should work from a place of curiosity.  We need to ask questions like, ‘what if’, ‘I’d like to better understand your ideas’, ‘what information or thinking brought you to that idea’, ‘tell me more about your experiences’, ‘what do we have in common’, ‘where do we differ, ‘what might be a perspective on this that is different from either of ours’, ‘what can we learn from each other’, ‘what are we going to think about further after this conversation, given what we have said’.  Holding authentic dialogues to explore the differences between views allows for a deepening of understanding and opens the way for exploration of a middle ground.  Jo provided the image of a diamond, the more facets a diamond has the more valuable it is.  Authentic dialogues are like a multi faceted diamond.  The more facets or perspectives that are brought into the conversation the richer the dialogue and the better the results. 

After this thought-provoking introduction and imagery, participants went into small groups to discuss examples of where they have experienced an adversarial worldview.  The groups were asked to discuss some things that in their experience sustain an adversarial worldview and block authentic dialogue and things we can do to address these blocks and increase our ability to have healing dialogues.  The groups then shared their insights and thoughts and engaged in a reflective exercise to explore our collective learning.  Some of the blocks identified by the groups were culture, core values, power and politics.  It was suggested that these blockages are often deeply rooted, are often hard to remove and continue to sprout new growth, keeping the argumentative two-sided worldview alive.  It was suggested that language often frames the conflict and establishes the patterns, assumptions and emotions around a conflict.  One participant said, “naming something gives it power”. To address and remove the blockages we need to set a clear intention of curiosity.  We need to be kind to ourselves and others.  We need to share stories, not opinions.  We need to carefully consider the language we are using.  And most importantly we need to BREATHE – ask then breathe, listen then breathe, consider then breathe, respond then breathe.  Sometimes all it takes is a calming breath before responding and continuously repeating the mantra I am curious to move an argument into a dialogue. 

The session concluded with participants sharing their insights and take-aways. We discussed the importance of remembering that we are all human and we need to continuously learn what it means to be a human being.  We need to remember that dialogue is always available.  As human beings we have more in common than we do differences, and we need to dare to speak and welcome those differences. Humanizing our dialogues, rather than demonizing each other is key.  It is important to separate arrival from the conversation, we often enter a dialogue thinking we need to arrive at a decision, rather than deepening understanding.  If we focus on expanding understanding rather than making a decision we can engage in a more authentic dialogue and move away from the adversarial worldview.
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“Mastering Facilitation to Navigate a Fractured World” Podcast

I was honoured to be interviewed by Myriam Hadnes for a podcast about my experience of facilitation in May. The podcast was posted in mid-August. The overview:

This link is to the podcast itself (note: it is about 80 minutes long….). There are important nuggets in it about the development of the field of facilitation, my experience and learnings, and some very practical tools.
https://workshops.work/podcast/229/

And a YouTube version, in case you prefer visuals with your listening…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oFJ6yjA5s4

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Keynote “Event”

Recently a colleague asked me if I would do a presentation for a webinar. I reluctantly agreed, but this is the memory that the request brought up.

I once was asked to do a keynote speech at a conference of people who ran community museums in Saskatchewan.  I told the organizer that I don’t do speeches, because I don’t like to be talked at so I don’t want to inflict that on others. I asked them to pay me a whole day’s fee for a 1-hour speech, hoping that they would say no.  But they still wanted me to do it!

So I decided to do a “keynote event” instead of a speech.  There were about 100 people, all lined up in folding chairs facing the speaker.  The first thing I did was have them pull their chairs into small groups of about 6 people each. Since they were museums people, I put the questions for a focused conversation on the flipchart about their past experience with their museums, and had them share following the questions in their small groups. There was a short opportunity for each small group to share something with the whole group. Then I gave a short talk about the present times. After that I had them go back into their small groups and follow focused conversation questions to share about their futures. The buzz of all those small conversations was amazing. I gave them another opportunity to share something from their group with the whole body. 

When the participants rated the “keynote” event, the participatory sharing parts rated very high, and the presentation part was much lower. I was not surprised.  Participation and sharing are much more fun than being talked at!

More recently, I was asked to do an Zoom conference presentation to several hundred facilitators from Korea. I don’t speak any Korean, and most participants did not have much English. There was simultaneous translation for my presentation, for which I used a slide show with images as well as key summary statements. People then went to breakout groups to have a conversation about what they had heard and their own experience, with guidance for the sequence of questions. When the group came back, there were some profound questions for me as a speaker that went deeper than the usual Q and A session.

Those who know me know that I am not averse to telling stories — in fact, that is what I just did in this post! But when people have a chance to share their own stories and experiences with others who listen, then they learn more and experience that their own knowledge and experience are valuable.

I suspect that this story catalyzed memories from your own experience that you might like to share. I invite you to share them in the comments on this post!

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Some Stories from Wayne Nelson

Wayne and I were included in a project by Jim Wiegel to interview colleagues on video about their experiences some years ago.

When Wayne died in 2014, Jim extracted 3 short clips from the interview of Wayne telling stories of our experiences. There is a memorial page for Wayne on the ICA Archives site, (https://icaglobalarchives.org/) where the stories had been uploaded, and recently the links were updated. I was able to view these clips. They communicate some of Wayne’s passions for phenomenology and participatory community development, and his ability to laugh at himself.

Here are the direct links to the clips on YouTube:

The Boomerang Story
The Phenomenonological Method
The Bayad Community Development Association
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Debriefing a Traumatic Event

I’m reposting this in response to events in Ukraine and other current events. It was originally designed in response to the Columbine high school shootings, and used with a group of facilitators a few days after 9/11. It has been translated into French, Chinese, and Urdu.

We would like to offer this conversation to people to use with colleagues, friends and
family to begin to process traumatic situations and respond to them productively.
This conversation is adapted from a conversation in Jo Nelson’s book “The Art of
Focused Conversation for Schools“, first published in May, 2001 by New Society Publishers and The Canadian Institute of Cultural Affairs, p. 155. The third edition was published by iUniverse in 2013.


A group member can help the group guide its thinking with the following questions. The
sequence of questions is designed to gradually move from surface observation through
personal reflection, thoughtful interpretation, and resolution.


Debriefing a Traumatic Event
Aims of the conversation:
To talk about personal experiences of the trauma
To face reality and begin to deal with it productively
To move from shock to beginning to come to terms with the situation

Opening:
This event has shaken all of us. Let’s take a little time to reflect on what’s happened, so
we can come to terms with it. I’m going to ask some questions that will help us gradually
process what happened. I would like you to let everyone have their own answers – no
interrupting, arguing, or judging what anyone says.
Objective Questions:
Imagine you were a video camera recording what you have seen and heard happening
since the first events. What actions, words, phrases, objects, and scenes are recorded on
your tape?
Let’s get everything out – the first events, then everything that has happened since — so
we all have as full a picture as possible of what has happened to this point.
Reflective Questions:
What were your first reactions?
What shocked or frightened you most about this incident?
What images or previous experiences were triggered for you?
How else did you find yourself reacting?
Interpretive Questions:
What impact has this had on you personally? How are you different now?
How we different as a group or as a society as a result of these events?
How has our view of the world changed?
What might have been some contributing factors to why this happened?
What might be some of the underlying issues behind all of this?
What might we learn from this?
Decisional Questions:
What can we do to deal with the situation in the short term?
What are some things we can do to begin to deal with the underlying issues and prevent
events like this from happening again?
What can we do to help each other?
Closing
We will undoubtedly continue to reflect on this. If you need help, please be sure to ask
for it.

Hints:
Some of these questions are difficult to answer, so if there are few spoken answers, don’t
worry. The very fact of raising these questions and following this flow allows deeper
reflection later. It may be helpful to print out the questions for people to take with them
for later reflection.


The Art of Focused Conversation for Schools: Over 100 Ways to Guide Clear Thinking and Promote Learning has nearly 200 sample conversations for parents, teachers, staff, and parents. It can be ordered through the publisher, iUniverse.com

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